I speak all the time about loving yourself, as do many in the self help arena. Recently one of my group attendees wanted to know what that really meant. ” How do I love myself?” What a wonderful question that many can benefit from. The obvious and common ways are self care, self awareness and self help. Make time for you. Allow time to relax , feed and clothe yourself, do the things that make your heart sing, respect yourself and require respect from others. These are all things that are fairly easy to know and take action on. However, the more subtle and I would suggest one of the most important, if not the most important way to love yourself, is to love all of your parts.
Loving your whole self So what does that mean? Everyone has experienced a multitude of life circumstances through out there life. There are many life circumstances that we encountered as children and or young adults that resulted in unconscious behaviors that continue to run in our lives. Often these behaviors aren’t serving us anymore but they continue to run the show from our unconscious world. These are the parts that We work on together in every group event and session. These parts have often been hiding in the shadows and running old memories. More importantly playing out defense mechanisms that were put in place to feel safe.
Loving ALL of Your Parts
Have you ever had feelings come up and or anger come out that really doesn’t make sense. These are the parts that many people have sent packing for years and years because they were told to be quite, or that it didn’t matter what they felt or thought, or that it’s bad to feel anger, or it’s wrong to talk back. Sound familiar??? Yep we all have parts that we have been shunning. When we shun these parts, they don’t go away. They go into hiding and survival because they don’t feel safe to express. They know they won’t be listened to or heard. They walk with us everywhere we go in the shadow of our soul and they yearn to be able to express and share what they experienced so they can move on and mature spiritually, mentally and physically. They show up in our outer world experience in the form of people’s behaviors and circumstances that are similar to the original circumstance that created the memories.
Emotional Triggers
We can identify these parts by the emotional triggers that get flipped as well as by the strong opinions and judgments that we NEED to change in others, in order for us to be happy. These are the parts that we can learn to love that will bring peace and harmony into our everyday life. These are the parts that I share with people how to address and get into a communicative relationship with form the inside out. There are ways to address every part with love, honor, and respect in a safe unconditionally loving manner. For more information on how to transform your life in an empowered way, call 614-214-8574 or go to www.susanfaynewton.com
Thank you for sharing in another present moment experience of our Beautiful world.
Love and Light Susan Newton
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